Working environment can be a playground that may bring fun and disaster at the same time. Dealing with office problems can be difficult especially when it involves human beings who are blessed with different kinds of characters. Hence, if it’s not about the work, it must be about the coworkers, right?
It is a tough thing to be calm when you work with difficult colleagues but here are the lights that will guide you to arrive calmly at the end of the tunnel!
Realize that you are living on Earth, not heaven.
Let’s admit, difficult people do exist. Even if it is not in a form of ‘colleague’, it will always appear in other forms such as ‘friend’ or ‘cousin’.
So, instead of complaining about how lame your coworkers are, you should focus on the fact that no matter how nice you are, difficult people are always there. In business, competition is something you can’t run away from. The promotion, the target, and other elements of work require you to become a tough person to survive.
Remember, these mean colleagues are there to test you. By admitting that difficult coworkers exist, you know where you stand and you should get on with what you do without paying too much attention to them.
Use them as your source of motivation
Difficult colleagues can be those who turn down your ideas or say something negative about you.
However, you need these people to make you a better person. Why not taking their comment as a second opinion? Your colleague must be an expert at something and his critic might just be the answer to help you out.
Instead of swallowing their negative opinion wholly, digest it slowly and make sure the ‘nutritious’ comment can bring out the best in you.
Keep calm and ask, “What’s wrong with me?”
Before you stand up and confront the annoying colleague of yours, make sure you have thought about it with your cool mind. Talking with difficult people is already a problem and using a higher tone to talk to them will only make it double.
At the moment where you can’t think of anything else but to be mad, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What’s wrong with me?”, “Why do I even care?”, “I am not going to lose my job because of you!”
Consider this as your special skill
Dealing with whiners and bullies at work should be done in private because these kinds of people will not back down in front of audience.
They tend to be synical due to their low personality dimension. This is why they easily blame others without looking at themselves. However, you have to do it professionally and calmly.
The problem is not you, it’s them
So far, you think you are a nice person but you have no idea how you can act crazy because of that one particular coworker.
Often times, you might think that you are the one to blame and have this guilt on your shoulder you can’t put down. Never let yourself get thrown off the balance because of another person. Being calm requires regular practice especially in this hectic phase of working life. Keep in mind that silence is not always golden. Calm is.
