What kind of friendship do you have?

Since we were kids, we were taught about friendship at school. Our classmates were our friends. We played hide and seek with the neighbors, and we called them friends. We move to the city and the roommate is our friend. We land on a job and the desk next door belongs to the colleague whom we later call, a friend. 

Friendship provides us with the physical and mental well being. The mutual goodwill of friendship, as described by Aristotle, *(No, I don't read it directly from his book. No, I'm not a philosopher either. Just saying.). 

Well, Aristotle said that Friendship creates a bond between two or more people. 

Difficult topics like love, romance, or family’s ‘dirty laundry’ – are just some of the innermost thoughts we share with our true friends. The emotion is authentic. We don’t pretend to laugh or be empathetic, but we just do. You’d feel bad when someone breaks your friend’s heart; you’d feel happy when he or she is getting a career promotion; you’d feel worried when he/she is sick. (Okay, we’re not talking about Instagram friend that says your #selfie with #NoFilter is #Awwww #sooo #pretty)

When I’m talking about friendship, I’m not talking about the casual friends that you share your feelings but still have careful thoughts how you share those things. I’m talking about the True friendship where I can discuss personal problems without incorporating the self-edited version of me. It’s like they know how clumsy I am and I know how witty they are. And really, you don’t need a life coach to find your best friends, somehow, they just appear as if the universe conspires you to meet them.

You can actually switch role from being ‘the person who takes care of’ to ‘the person who is taken care of’. It happens spontaneously like when you meet your friend in a coffee shop and pour the heart out without ever saying, “Let’s begin the talk,” – it just flows.

For me, my best friend is the one who:

• -         Ice you
• -         Scold you
• -         Slap you
• -         Drag you back from cloud 9 to the real hard ground with their logic mind
• -         Keep you company when you need it the most
• -         Listen to you (even when they feel bored with your whines!)
• -         Laugh over something or agree on something that only both of you understand
• -         Come to your rescue
• -         Celebrate your moments
• -         Show you unconditional support

I’m blessed to have real friendship with the people whom I truly adore and admire(I never really say this to them, but really, I do!). Not many of us can share the same passion with our friends. And not many of us have that kind of friendship. This is why, when you have these kind of people in your circle, keep them. Show them that you care (because you really care); and appreciate their presence, while they’re still there. 

When talking about friendship, I always remember this question:

When your relationship fails; When your family is broken; When you get a promotion; When everything falls apart – who will be there for you?

And that really sums up which friend is the best friend.

"In the end, it's our best friends who make everything bearable."

PS.

If you are single right now, don’t feel bad about it. This is the time to reconnect with your close friends that you might have forgotten because you’re too caught up with your ex. Friends are those people who will build up your confidence even if it’s from zero point. They will somehow find a way to cheer you and make you feel happy with yourself.

The ones who make your life less stressful and suddenly you feel that this earth isn't really a horrible place to live.