The Grass is Greener on The Other Side (Or, Not)

For the past weeks, I’ve been getting messages from my friends. And I’m not sure why they’re talking about the same topic (FYI, they don’t know each other and they’ve never met each other before).

They’re asking the same question to me, “How to be happy?”

As much as I want them to read my blog post about happiness, I’ll just be a good friend and answer as wise (or witty) as I could possibly can (which most of the time, I can’t). And it’s definitely not the right time to discuss the Law of attractions with them either.

I think I can almost conclude that most people feel bored with their lives. I believe most of you are tired of working from 8 to 5. Some of you feel that you just want to give up with your relationships. Another group of you might want to pack your bags and leave this planet, start a new life, if you only could. (That would be quite expensive though, because the journey to Mars needs a lot of money, which only means you need to work really F*cking harder for that). So let’s skip the latter option, shall we?

Most of us have different lifestyles, wealth, opportunities, responsibilities, etc; that we tend to get worried of certain things, and worse, we start to compare ourselves to others. The worst thing is when we compare our own life with the ones on Instagram.

Your watch may be digital, but your live is analog

Well, thanks to the technology that now, life becomes easier (or not?).

We have more choices on everything, that we become tired of choosing. We become so scared that our choices are wrong just because there are so many of them to choose from!

How many of you lie awake at night, thinking about what you’re doing, or what you’ll do next, or what you’ve missed out, or what you’ve wasted?

In a world where everything is in a fast pace, we tend to walk with a sense of urgency. We think we are running out of time to do big things and if we don’t catch up, we’ll fail.

This is why, it’s so easy for us to feel burdened. To feel that we haven’t met our own criteria as a successful businessman, as a supervisor, as a happy wife, as a loving husband, as a child, as a parent, and so on.

All of us, are running, towards what we call happiness. But what most of us don’t know; is that

If you can’t feel happy TODAY, you won’t be, tomorrow.

You’re only creating disaster when you focus on things you don’t have. You will NEVER EVER be happy if you think the grass is always greener on the other side. *In case of Instagram, you know they can filter the grass, which makes a greener green?

Once you move into that greener grass, you’ll start to think that the other neighbor's grass is greener, and the neighbor's next to your neighbor's grass.. and this thought will never stop.

Focus on the present, because the present is a gift (oh yeah, you’ve heard this before, you’ll always hear it!)

Quoting from Aunty Acid:

“Caffeine is bad for you

Fat is bad for you

Sugar is bad for you

But don’t Worry

Worrying is bad for you too!”

*If you don’t know who’s Aunty Acid, you can find it here (she’s like.. the funniest, bitchiest, most sarcastic realistic aunt you’ll ever want to meet and do high-five with!)

Whenever you start to worry or you lose yourself, or wonder if you could be happy somewhere else; it’s time to slap yourself back to the present moment and see what’s surrounding your life right now.

You have your parents still alive? Grateful for that!

You can spend money on a cup of coffee? Great!

You have books to read? That means you have sights, right? Thank God!

You have friends to laugh with or lean on? Then you have everything!

Please, enjoy the moment and stop worrying too much, because it’s all we’ve got. Our past has gone and don’t worry about the future – it hasn’t arrived yet.

The grass isn’t greener on the other side. It never is.

Healthy and Happy

Healthy lifestyles have a great impact on your happiness. If you are a person who cares about healthy lifestyles, you should be grateful because you are not only healthy but also happy. Actually, health and happiness are closely related. If you are not healthy, your happiness will be decreased.

Of course, you can still be grateful and enjoy life, but who does not want to enjoy life with a healthy body? If you are happy, you are influencing your body to be healthy. The system in your body is accepting your positive signal and makes you more immune to sickness. Healthy lifestyles and happiness should be a part of people's lives.

Let us start talking about sleeping habits. You should sleep about seven to eight hours a day. If you do not sleep enough, some negative effects are going to take place. Lacking of sleep make people gradually lose concentration, memory, vocabulary and creativity. Those are important in people's lives.. Imagine if you do not have enough concentration when you are doing accounting at work, you will do mistakes.

You need creativity to do business.
You definitely do not want to lose your memory when you are still young. To have a quality sleep, here are some tips that you can do. Try not to have dinner after seven o'clock. Your digestive system should also get some rest when you are sleeping so do not make it works hard. When you are sleeping and you still have food to digest, your intestine will be busy and disturb your sleeping process.

Try to clear you mind from things that bother you.
Do not have an argument before your sleeping time. Read books that inspire you and calm you. If you love to write, jot down your burdens in a journal. It will help you ease your troubled mind. Turn off the lamp. Darkness gives your eyes more relaxation because the melatonin hormone is delivered at night when the dark comes. Close your eyes and relax until you go to sleep.

Another example is exercise. Doing regular exercise is a healthy lifestyle. Doing exercise enables your whole body to work properly because the blood circulates well through the circulation system. The melatonin hormone that creates a good feeling will be delivered. Hair, skin and the whole appearance improves. Everyone wants to feel good and look good. As age increases, body performance decreases. That is undeniable.

Even though it cannot be avoided, exercising is still a good solution to maintain body performance from decreasing too soon. If you are healthy, your life can be effective. You can work and earn money, you can help others, and enjoy life, go to places that you would like to visit. If you are sick, you cannot work, cannot help others more effectively, and cannot go to places because you have to lie down for rest.

Decide to get a healthy lifestyle now before it is too late.

5 Habits of a very happy people

It is no surprise that happiness can be highly formed and created by your positive habits. If you find someone who seems so happy and enjoy life, perhaps he has one of these rituals.

Never complain

Often we hear people wail about how miserable their lives; mounting debts, damaged car, no network coverage and many other situations to complain. Complaining doesn’t get you out from your situation, it gives you worse. Happy person complains less. This kind of individual is comfortable with what life has given. The key to never complain is to accept whatever condition you are going through right now. Acceptance leads you to release your problem by opening the solution doors. Being miserable is the only thing that happy people refuse to accept.
Happy people do know about pain but they overcome it without having to be in a mess.

Always think positive
Positive thoughts attract the universe to ‘obey’ your mind. Our subconscious is a contributing factor to our behavior. Hence, happy people tend to say, “We’ll find another way”, instead of, “We’re so dead!”. Not only it gives relief to our mind, but also brings chances to get the best out of a problem. Positive thinking is the thoughts of possibilities.
If you focus on the possibilities, happy things happen.

Forgive others
Frankly said, we have no control of what’s life meant to be. If you can’t blame the weather, then I suppose you can forgive people. Happy persons know how it feels to forgive. Forgiving means refusing yourself to be miserable. When we’re in our resentful moment, no other person will suffer accept our own heart and others will still do what they do.
Judging them guilty only means keeping the pain inside. It doesn’t make any difference. In fact, it ruins your life more. Happy people have the habit to forgive. They understand exactly that the true beauty of living in this world is to love each other and not busy making enemies.

Not attached to anything
What you chase will always run away. It is a hurtful fact, but it’s true. Have you ever known of someone who is desperately aimed on a prize but ended up losing? This is the result when you get attached to things. We often prefer to focus on the grand prize rather than giving our best. If you’re emotionally involved to things such as money or lover, believe me, you won’t get it.
When you’re attached to things, you become the slave of possession. And what you have right now will never be enough because you always crave for more.

Be grateful all the time
Happy people love themselves. The truth is, we have to accept who we are before anyone can accept us for who we are. Nobody is perfect. So, instead of blaming the world for your shortcomings, you can start to improve yourself.

Happy people know when to enjoy and when to do what they should do. They realize that life has to be balance and it is their habit to let life flows on its course that eventually creates energy to attract happiness.

Be thankful for your life, judge people less and you’ll find your way to happiness.