What to Do When Everything That Can Go Wrong Does Go Wrong

Let’s admit, it’s not easy to deal with any rejection – be it a relationship, a job interview or anything else in between.

It is even harder to stay positive when all the problems seem to swallow you up. We can feel really bad when we lose our job or when our relationship seems to be stuck. The reason why we feel bad is because people can’t deal with rejections.

Some of us may not be able to properly handle these bad experiences because simply, we don’t know how to.

Rejection is inevitable
In almost any stage of our lives, we have dealt with rejections whether it’s in love, social life or job. The best way we can do is to have a proper understanding on how to deal with bad experiences and show trauma where the door is.

Rejection is part of life
Even Donald Trump has dealt with rejections.
A failure doesn’t mean the end of the world. It simply is a pathway to help you notice which works and which doesn’t. When you deal with rejections in the right way, you will quickly learn that failure is just a pebble standing between you and your success. Of course, you will feel bad but don’t let it take over you.

Rejection that leads to insecurity
When we are criticized, we tend to feel insecure. We feel we are not good enough and hopeless. The senses arise and we wonder if the pains ever go away. As a human, we don’t get used to be abandoned or threatened.

And it is important not to worry about the fragility but think that we are only human. We have vulnerable sides and it is completely okay to feel bad after being rejected or criticized. But hey, didn’t American Idol judges criticize, too?

We tend to think that rejection is bad. Not being in the first position is bad; failing on a relationship is bad. Everything we do, we tend to distinguish the good and the bad without taking notes on the struggles.

When you are being rejected, that doesn’t mean you are a bad lover or a bad worker. It means you are shown the wrong things before finally finding the right one. It helps you to know which pain is worth the suffering before you finally reach your goals.

Sounds, cliché but true. It is up to you, whether to go down in despair or get back up and move on. Always be objectives It is hard not to be on one side but you need to think objectively when dealing with rejection.

Have you worked hard enough? Have you given enough attention and effort? It is wise to firstly look in the mirror and identify the problem threads before pointing fingers. Find your way to release the stress - Remember the last time someone broke your heart and look at you now, already forget about it?

This is what happens when you let time heals. The previous rejections are simply a reminder to keep you move on and knowing that you are on the right path to your goals be it in relationship or business. - Take a deep breath and let your body relax. The stress of works and the troubles of life can really break you into pieces if you don’t let the mind calm. Technically, this method has been used by psychologists and it is a basic relaxation technique that anyone can apply.

 - Think positive
Why do you have to think negatively when thinking positively costs nothing? It is better to feel good regardless of any circumstances you are going through. It is better to think that the rejection leads to the right path than to think the rejection leads to a doom.

 - Be open to the differences
Every person is unique and a situation may be handled differently. There will be no two people who think exactly the same way, even if they are twins. It is important to be self conscious when it comes to the differences in people and not to expect too high because it could possibly hurt you.

Bad Relationships - When Enough is Enough

In every relationship, there is no such thing as black or white. But there are times that you question your partner’s behavior, is it acceptable? Do you intentionally hurt me? You want to believe that he or she is not doing it on purpose but then your mind seems to have a war.

In a relationships, partners can make mistakes and not all perfect, need encouragement and sometimes forgiveness. But I often ask myself, how many times should a person be forgiven?

Action speaks louder than words 
Little signs are The Signs. When a person makes no effort in making you stay, then you should not be waiting anymore time to leave. Sometimes we tend to believe that he is a good person but with the consistent behavior showing the contradictions – it should be a clear, obvious sign that he is not listening to you, he is not interested to take care of you or simply being there for you.

If he keeps breaking his promises, perhaps he is an emotionally unavailable partner that will constantly have to be reminded. If you really can’t decide whether to give up or to give in, trust actions. Words are deceiving.

Making excuses 
Do you find yourself making excuses just to correct your partner’s behavior? It simply signifies that the behavior is unacceptable.

You can’t consistently try to mend the wrongs. It is not your fault that someone has a bad relationship in the past, or a tough childhood. That doesn’t mean it’s okay to treat you badly under any circumstances.

It is better to take care of yourself first before you give your love to others. Self-respect is important; so before you feel a compassion to others, make sure that you don’t lose yourself.

Manipulative 
Some people are just experts in being manipulative. They could turn around an excuse as a weapon to make it looks as if is your fault. Sometimes it is difficult to determine whether you are really wrong or you are just a victim.

If you feel like you are not needy but your partner feels you are clingy, perhaps it’s never your fault. You can constantly think you are the crazy one when your friends think you are doing the right thing.

Lying is not healthy 
It is normal, but if it happens constantly, it’s not healthy. Being deceptive means you have too many secrets to hide from your partner. You can’t even trust him with your secrets. It is a blunder in a relationship to be in that level of deceptive.

If you find that you or your partner has to avoid conflicts by lying or making excuses, then this is an obvious sign of an unhealthy relationship.

Unwillingness to change
If your partner has cheated on you, yes, you may forgive him or her. But if the behavior does not change, then you should leave the bad relationship behind. Changes are necessary just like compromises.

If your partner is found guilty but doesn’t make any effort to change, then perhaps he is not sorry at all?
Don’t let the habit kills you. You need to be kind enough to walk away from the drama.

Constant miscommunication
If the small arguments lead to big issues, perhaps both of you have a hard time communicating. You should talk to your partner as if you are talking to your best friend. It is necessary for couples to express themselves in communications.

If they respect you, they want you to grow
Everyone has weaknesses and this should not be used to disrespect anyone. If a partner truly loves you, he or she would want you to grow. No matter how bad your past relationships were, your present partner will not use it against you.

If you really can’t decide if you are having a bad relationship because you are being emotionally invested, you can discuss your problem to someone who has nothing to do with the relationship. These people can be family or best friends. And it's obvious, they want what’s best for you and they don’t want you feel untreated. Be kind to yourself and walk away.